You're a bully
 
You commit acts of bullying
 
Consequences
If you bully others, take the time to reflect on the consequences of your bullying and cyber-bullying behaviour:

• You may find yourself alone and alienated because bullying isn’t always synonymous with popularity! 
• You may have difficulty making real friends because the people around you are often only there to avoid being your target.
• You may lose friends because, over time, they may increasingly disagree with your intimidating words and actions and no longer want to be your accomplices.
• You may be hurt by someone who decides to defend themselves (physically or psychologically) or who takes revenge.
• You won’t learn to develop relationships without violence or power, and this could ultimately lead to difficulties in certain areas of your life (work, friends, romantic relationships, etc.). 
• You may gain a reputation among those around you as a violent, self-centred person.
• You may develop increasingly serious aggression issues, including delinquency.
• You may, in the future, feel guilty and sad about what you’ve done.
• You may suffer consequences at school (having to repeat a year, getting expelled, conflicts with teachers, the administration, your parents, etc.).
• You may suffer academic failure.
• You may suffer legal consequences (police arrest) since bullying and cyber-bullying are illegal acts.
• Where cyber-bullying is concerned, you may suffer consequences from Internet service providers, which can take action against people who do not comply with their acceptable use policy.

Questioning yourself 
Even though bullying may sometimes make you think you’re getting what you want, bullying and cyber-bullying always end up having unpleasant consequences for everyone concerned.

 
What to do

If you think you are committing acts of bullying or cyber-bullying, the first step is to acknowledge it and accept that it is a problem. 
You may well be exhibiting this behaviour without thinking because you have learned that angering or mocking people isn’t serious because everyone does it. Unfortunately, you may not have realized that many people can get hurt by these actions that—to you—don’t seem serious. 

Here are some ideas to help you modify this behaviour:

• Identify the pros and cons of your bullying behaviour.
• Why do you behave in ways that hurt others?
• Which situations lead you to bully?
• What are the consequences of this behaviour on yourself and on your relationships with others (friends, parents, teachers)?
• How would you feel if you were the victim of bullying? Keep in mind that it can happen to anyone!
• What activities would make you feel good about yourself and popular among your friends without hurting anyone (belonging to a sports team, showing off your talents as a DJ, with video games or dancing, etc.)?
• Only post comments on the Internet that you’d be prepared for everyone to see (your parents, future employers, family members, future teachers, your future children, etc.) permanently.
Make reparations for some of your errors, for example by apologizing to the people you have bullied.
Talk about your problems with people you trust who could help you minimize your bullying behaviour (e.g. school counsellors, Tel-jeunes (hyperlink to telephone number)).

Remember that, when it comes to bullying, there are no real winners!


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