You're being bullied
 
You are being bullied
 
Consequences
Everyone reacts differently to bullying and cyber-bullying. You may:

• Feel alone and misunderstood by others
Isolate yourself
• Feel your self-esteem shrinking and may even start believing what is being said about you
• Feel sad, depressed and humiliated
• Experience physical discomfort (stomach aches, headaches, difficulty sleeping)
• Feel afraid and anxious, especially with regard to certain people, places or times associated with the bullying (you are scared to go back to school, take the bus, go to your locker, etc.)
• Not know how to interact with others
• Become aggressive, in turn, with others
• Have difficulty concentrating• See your school marks drop, become disinterested in school and think of dropping out
• Have dark thoughts

Bullying always hurts, and no one deserves to be bullied!

 
What to do
It’s important to know that there aren’t any magic solutions for avoiding bullying or cyber-bullying.

One method may be effective in one situation but ineffective in another. What’s important is to persevere and not give up. 
The idea is to never isolate yourself with your problem. Be sure to talk to your friends about it and to get help from adults you trust in order to find solutions to put an end to the bullying. 
Reporting a bullying situation is different than “ratting someone out.” It means you’re saying NO to bullying!!!
1- Remember that:
• You’re not responsible for someone bullying you.• Bullying can distress the victim. Hurting others is never acceptable, regardless of the circumstances.• You’re not going to stay a victim of bullying all your life: you can take action so that the bullying subsides and comes to an end one day.
2- Stand up for yourself
To stand up for yourself more effectively, you can:
• Give your opinion and defend your ideas.• Assert yourself.• Look the person in the eye and tell them you won’t stand for what’s going on and that you find the situation unacceptable.
Careful! Standing up for yourself does not mean insulting someone else or being a bully yourself. It’s not easy!It can be very difficult standing up for yourself after being bullied. You may lose hope after a few unsuccessful tries, which is why it’s important to persevere by seeking help from people you trust. You can also call us at Tel-Jeunes (Hyperlink to phone number) at any time—it’s confidential.Remember that standing up for yourself means setting limits and stating that you won’t tolerate bullying.
In the case of cyber-bullying:- Quickly exit the virtual space where you’re being bullied (social media, instant messaging, games, chat room, etc.).- Block the emails or instant messages from the people bullying you.- Change your email/instant messaging address and only give it to your friends.- Do not respond to bullying messages.
3- Act sure of yourself
• Being bullied shakes a person’s self-confidence. You might find it difficult to act confident and sure of yourself. • Keep in mind your qualities and strengths, and remember that you have just as much worth as anyone else. • Pay attention to your posture, hold your head up high, look other people in the eye when you talk to them, stay cheerful and positive and don’t isolate yourself. • This can really make a difference!
4- Cultivate your friendships
• Being surrounded by friends can help put some distance between you and those who are bullying you. • Maintain your friendships, strive to be a good friend, and open up to others. • Show an interest in getting to know them and doing activities with them.• Try to make new friends by showing an interest in their discussions, or by taking part in group activities (sports, theatre, etc.). 
5- Ignore the bully
• If you think the person bullying you is trying to get you to react but not hurt you, you can decide it’s not worth reacting, simply get on with what you were doing, and ignore them. • However, if you are really hurt and humiliated by the bullying or cyber-bullying, you can’t ignore it. You must take action and report it .
6- Follow your instincts
• Trust your instincts. You’re certainly the person who best knows what situations are most likely to result in bullying.• Are you listening to your “personal alarm system” that warns you of danger? • If you’re afraid of being bullied again in certain places, make sure you’re not alone and ask your friends to accompany you (e.g. to the bus stop).
7- Talk about it
• Isolating yourself and keeping silent doesn’t encourage people to stop bullying you. On the contrary, it tempts them to keep it up because they don’t have to face the consequences of their actions! If you don’t say anything, your friends and acquaintances won’t know what’s happening and unfortunately won’t be able to help you. • You have to break the silence and talk about it. You have to talk to someone you know who you trust and report the bullying. • Where cyber-bullying is concerned, it’s equally important to report bullying situations to your Internet provider and issuing media (e.g. Facebook).
8- Ask for help
Don’t remain alone. Ask for help from your friends, parents, or adults you trust. Tell them what you’re going through and how you feel.• They can help you find ways to protect yourself, report the bullying and put an end to this unacceptable situation.
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