Day-to-day challenges
 
Loneliness
 
What is it?
•    Loneliness is being alone and isolated from others.

•    You can choose to be alone and isolate yourself because you want to think about things or study, for example.

•   You may also feel lonely because you lack friends or feel rejected.

•    It’s important to know that everyone goes through periods of loneliness, and that this is completely normal. Being alone with yourself from time to time takes some getting used to!

•    It can actually be good for morale and give you the opportunity to take stock of your life, your relationships, and what’s really important to you.
You can also take the time to do things you enjoy and that you don’t do with other people (e.g. looking through childhood photos, playing a musical instrument, cooking, reading a good book or magazines).

•    But if you feel lonely often, ask yourself about your ability to make and keep friends. When it comes to friends, it’s not the quantity that matters but rather the quality of the relationship.

 
How to manage loneliness
•    Know yourself. What causes you to be alone? Are you scared other people will judge or make fun of you? Are other people rejecting you or abandoning you? If so, why? Is it you who is choosing to be alone? Are you spending too much time in front of your computer playing video games or surfing the Web?
It’s all a matter of balance. Try and balance out your alone time and your time with friends and family.

•    Change your mood. Liven your alone time by doing activities you enjoy.

•    Take a look around you. If you have trouble making friends, take a look at the people around you who find it easy to do this, and adopt some of their behaviours (those you’re comfortable with).

•    Choose your activities. To make friends, try to get involved in group activities (e.g. join a sports group, help out on the student newspaper, participate at a youth centre).

•    Call your friends. If you’re feeling lonely and would like to do something with your friends, give them a call! If they aren’t available the first time around, try again and don’t get discouraged.

•    Cultivate your friendships. Stay in touch with your friends. Take the initiative to call them and find out what they’ve been up to, suggest doing something together, etc.

•    Talk about it. Share your feelings and worries with people you trust; they can help you find solutions. Or call Tel-jeunes!
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