Talking about it
Don’t feel uncomfortable talking to your partner about protection. Wanting to protect yourself doesn’t mean you don’t trust the other person; it means you want to find a way to make sure your pleasure doesn’t turn into a nightmare.

You can tell the other person: “If you want to take risks, that’s your business! I’m afraid of diseases/I’m afraid of getting pregnant, not of you!” Remember that the condom is the only effective method to protect against pregnancy, most STIs and HIV.

Here are some easy excuses often made for not using a condom.

  • “There’s no danger of STIs or HIV. Those stories aren’t true.”
  • “Don’t worry! It’s not dangerous at our age.”
  • “If you really loved me, you’d want to make love without protection.”
  • “If you don’t want to, it’s over between us.”
  • “C’mon be cool! Let’s just do it this once without a condom…”
  • “We’re faithful to each other, we don’t need condoms.”
  • “It’s not really sex if there’s no penetration.”
  • “Trust me, I don’t need a condom, I don’t have any bugs, I’m clean.”
  • “Nobody in our gang uses condoms.”

It’s important to know that all these excuses are no reason for you to risk your life and your health by agreeing to have unprotected sex.

For ideas on how to respond to these excuses, visit (available in French only).

Between the two of you, you’re sure to come up with a fun way to incorporate condoms into your sex life. The important thing is to talk about it and be creative!
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