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Violence in romantic relationships
Violence in a romantic relationship :
LOOKS CAN BE DECEIVING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Poisoned love. It may be difficult to imagine love and violence coexisting. Most romantic relationships are built around tenderness, respect for the other person, commitment, and trust. However, poisoned love also exists (read more here about healthy relationships, and read more here problems in romantic relationships).
Hurtful love. Violence in romantic relationships is often subtle. At times, a person who uses violent behaviour may be very sweet, charming, seductive, and considerate, and spoil you. A person with violent behaviours does not necessarily hate their partner! You can experience violence in your romantic relationship even if you and your partner are very attached to each other. In fact, the other person’s good points and their behaviour in these tender moments may be the reasons that someone may be tempted to stay in a relationship that hurts more than it rewards.
Hope springs eternal. Violence may take a long time to appear, and it may take some time before a person is able to realize it and admit it. You might, for example, say “after all, he was really attentive at the beginning”, to think that the violence is just a temporary thing. But once you’re caught in the cycle of violence, it can be difficult to stop things from escalating (read more here about the cycle of violence).
Don’t try to work it out all by yourself! If you’re experiencing violence from your partner or if you yourself are violent, it’s important that you get help (read more here about violence in romantic relationships and read more here about how to get help if you are violent).
Visit www.aimersansviolence.com
- It is physical, psychological, financial, or sexual violence by a person towards their partner
- It is an attack on the other person’s integrity
- It is a restriction of the other person’s freedom
- It is the exercise of abusive control over the other person
- It may take various forms: controlling the other person’s relationships by preventing them from seeing certain people, grabbing or shoving them, insulting them, belittling them, giving threatening looks, harassing them after a break-up, blackmailing them to obtain favours, making unfounded accusations, making them account for their activities and their comings and goings, forcing them to have sex (read more here about sexual assault)
LOOKS CAN BE DECEIVING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Poisoned love. It may be difficult to imagine love and violence coexisting. Most romantic relationships are built around tenderness, respect for the other person, commitment, and trust. However, poisoned love also exists (read more here about healthy relationships, and read more here problems in romantic relationships).
Hurtful love. Violence in romantic relationships is often subtle. At times, a person who uses violent behaviour may be very sweet, charming, seductive, and considerate, and spoil you. A person with violent behaviours does not necessarily hate their partner! You can experience violence in your romantic relationship even if you and your partner are very attached to each other. In fact, the other person’s good points and their behaviour in these tender moments may be the reasons that someone may be tempted to stay in a relationship that hurts more than it rewards.
Hope springs eternal. Violence may take a long time to appear, and it may take some time before a person is able to realize it and admit it. You might, for example, say “after all, he was really attentive at the beginning”, to think that the violence is just a temporary thing. But once you’re caught in the cycle of violence, it can be difficult to stop things from escalating (read more here about the cycle of violence).
Don’t try to work it out all by yourself! If you’re experiencing violence from your partner or if you yourself are violent, it’s important that you get help (read more here about violence in romantic relationships and read more here about how to get help if you are violent).
Visit www.aimersansviolence.com