Hi well...I pretended that I was gonna get a surgery and well...then I pretended I could'nt do gym for like 5 weeks and I gave a note to my teacher.. and she said i need a note from my doctor..But I don't know how I'll get one when it's not true..I don't know what to do ! I did this because i wanted a boy to feel sorry for me, because i got a crush on him..I don't know what to do !!!! I'm so scared that my teacher will get mad..And my parents will get so mad at me.. I really regret doing this !! HELP ME !! I don't know what to do.. If I tell the truth.. my teacher will suspend me.. or my friends will hate me.. And the guy i'm crushing on..will hate me.. Please help me !!

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello girly-girl, Sometimes a situation just goes too far and I understand you’re scared of the consequences. You know, there’s rarely the “perfect” solution. If we look at your situation, there are 2 possibilities; telling the truth or continuing the lie. Tell me girly girl, if you make a list of advantages and inconveniences, what you be the “not so bad” solution? Is it really possible to continue lying? What would be the consequences if you tell the truth now? What would be the consequences if the truth is discovered even later on? Is a compromise possible? For example, could you go see your teacher to explain why you made up this story? Maybe you could find a solution between you both. Do you think so? Continuing a lie is hard because it always gets more complicated. We tell more lies to cover the other ones. Do you agree with me? Would it help making you feel better if you tell the truth? I’ll let you think about it! We’re always available for you! Take care! Tel-jeunes

my b/f and i have been going out for 7 months and tomorrow it wil be 8 months lately me and him dont have anything to talk about anymmore i cant start a conversation because i also dont have any questions what should we talk about?

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello, We did receive your 2 emails. Since we only answer 1 question by person per day, I will only look at your first situation. But feel welcome to write back. You know, a relationship’s between 2 different people. Your boyfriend and you are the only people who can work together to find a solution. Something that could be convenient for both of you. Have you told him about this lack of communication? Could you find a solution together? Could you both find subjects to talk about? And if it’s not possible, what would it mean for you? How do you feel in this relationship? Is conversation important to you? You’re the only one who knows if you are ready to accept this aspect of your relationship. I’ll let you think about it! Have a great day! Tel-jeunes

why is my boyfriend wanting me to stop hanging aroung my friend who is a female, and he is alway calling her?

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello cloats2003, You know, your boyfriend’s the only who has the answer. Do you agree with me? How do you feel about it? Have you told him? What do you want to do? I wish I could help you more, but I don’t have much information on your situation. Do you want to write back with more precision? What kind of help are you looking for? How could Tel-jeunes help you? We are always available for you! Tel-jeunes

Hi tel-jeunes, i just got my period, and i'm 12, is it too young?

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello chocolatelover! Puberty can bring out a lot of questions. You had your first period and you’re wondering if it is too young. You know, a girl never controls the time, the date, the age, etc. she will have her first period. We don’t have that kind of power over our body! Every girl develops at her own rhythm. Some girls will have their first period at 10, others at 12, at 14 or at 16. There is no “normal” age. Does that reassure you? If you want to know more about menstruations, I invite you to have a look at the SEXUALITY section of our website where you’ll find information under the “For girls…” rubric. Don’t hesitate to call us if you wish to talk with a counsellor. Take care! Tel-jeunes

After I asked a question and you replied, How do I reply back? Becaus I get it through my email adress and I can't reply.

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello anonyme123, It’s actually quite easy! Just send us a new message, using the same nickname. And please mention that it’s a reply to a precedent question. We’ll find the other emails, don’t worry about it! Have a great day! Tel-jeunes

dear teljeunes, i dont know how i should deal with people around me. it feels like no one cares or really likes me as a friend because of my reaction towards people, my awkwardness around people, my quietness, and i just dont think im a good friend. i really dont like myself or my personality. i know i should just act like myself and i want to be noisy around people and outgoing just like i am at home. but unless i get alot of attention, im always scared people will think of me as weird or annoying if i act like myself or talk and ask them alot of questions. im the type of person that gets really depressed or sad when i notice at least a little bit of something that people do that looks like they think im annoying. what should i do? i wanna be outgoing and talkative and have alot of friends. but i dont know. im not really good at talking and making friends. right now i just really dont like myself. people usually feel awkward around me because i get nervous or i feel shy. when i look at my peers around me having fun with other friends and everyone liking them, i wanna be like them!! but since my first impression to them was quiet and just awkward, im too nervous to act like myself and it wouldnt really look like me. i dont know what to do! it seems like people dont really like me that much. please give me advice

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello scotch, You know, being shy isn’t a bad thing. Some people are more introverted, some aren’t. Shy people can be quiet, but they’re also great listeners. Do you understand what I mean? Do you participate in activities that you like? A friendship starts with a first contact. For example, if a person participates in activities that he likes, there are more chances to meet others that share the same interests. Do you agree with me? It’s also easier to talk to somebody else when we have a subject in common. Is there anything that you really like doing that you could share with someone else? Also, our thoughts can also influence our emotions. You mention that your first impression to other people at school was quiet and awkward. Do you think you should let this stop you? What are your talents, your qualities? We all have something that makes us special scotch! If you feel like you have a hard time, you could see your school counsellor. Ok? I’ll let you think about it. Remember we’re always available for you! Tel-jeunes

my boyfriend gets upset very easily..recently he called me and the phone was breaking up so i couldn`t hear him properly..then when i finally heard him and tried to explain that it wasn`t my fault i didn`t hear what he had said..he didn`t even let me explain he hang up on me...i`m really hurt by this..he was being very dissrespectful to me..it is not the first time he hangs up on me...he did it before and i want him to stop doing that because it makes me feel worthless and it hurts my feelings really bad...how can i get him to stop??...please help!!

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello sassygirl777, I can understand it hurts your feelings. We all have different ways to react to anger. Sometimes it’s acceptable for us, sometime it’s not. Some people yell at each other, other talk. Is it possible that when your boyfriend gets frustrated, it his way to express it? We don’t have the power to change someone else. But we can choose our own reaction. When he hangs up on you, what could you choose to do? Do you prefer to wait until he calls back to apologize? Could you talk to other friends or change your mind? Also we can ask ourselves if our own reaction can have an influence on the behaviour. For example, if every time a person hangs up, the other calls back: is it possible that the other will continue doing it? Have you told him how you feel? For example, when you’re both calm and ready for a conversation? It’s important to let the other know how it makes us feel. Do you agree with me? We’re always available for your questions! Tel-jeunes

Everyone my age seems to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, except me. I have always pictured myself waiting till I'm like 15 or 16 years old to have a boyfriend. But now, it seems as though everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend. Even kids that are younger than me. Is it because no one likes me that I don't have a boyfriend? In a way I'd like one, but then again, I'd like to wait. What should I do?

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello girly_girl4! Love is a concern for a lot of teenagers. I understand you wish to be in a relationship even if, at the same time, you find important to wait. Do you know that a lot of teens wish to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? At any age, wishing to love and to be loved is normal. You say that everyone seems to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Is it possible that you’re looking only to those who actually have one? But if you look closer, I’m sure you’ll see a lot of person who are not involved in a relationship. You know girly_gril4, to get involved in a relationship, you need to be ready to do so. Are you? Even if you look forward to, do you want to have a boyfriend right away? Also, you need to find the right person for you. Did you meet that person? Are you ready to get involved in a relationship with anyone, just to be in a relationship? Until you’re ready and you find the right person for you, what can you do to feel better? Can you take that time to think about the kind of relationship you wish to be in? What helps you change your mind? If you wish to talk with a counsellor, don’t hesitate to call us. Take care! Tel-jeunes

here's the thing...i had sex with my boyfriend 1 day after my period finished..i want to know if its possible that i could get pregnant given that it was just 1 day after and we didn't use any protection either

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello hoopz007! Writing to us was a good idea. You had unprotected sex and you’re wondering if you could get pregnant. In order to be pregnant, there needs to be contact between sperm and the vagina. Did you know that it is important to use protection throughout the month? When protection was not used or that an accident happened, the morning-after pill can be taken. It is possible to take it 5 days after the sexual intercourse at risk, but the earlier it’s taken, the more effective it is. Remember though that it cannot replace a regular method. To know more about the morning-after pill, I invite you to talk about it with your school nurse, a pharmacist or a doctor (in a clinic or at the CLSC). Did you know that unprotected sex also involves risks of getting an STI? Condoms remain the only method that can protect you from STIs and prevent pregnancy. To have more information, I invite you to visit the website www.masexualite.ca. Take care! Tel-jeunes

im bi and i like my bestfriend, i used to like my other friend but then he started to become a jerk. now he likes her and she likes him, they are now together and its killing me everytime i see them together and i dont know what to do, she knew i liked him and she knows i like her but she still decided to get with him. They are always spending time together and me and her used to always spend alot of time together but now we hardly get to hang out. her boyfriend and i are always fighting and when she finds out about it she always chooses his side so it causes me and her to fight. i feel like shes choosing her boyfriend over me all the time. what do i do? how do i stop the pain and make it through this?

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello Galactic girl, I understand that your friend’s important for you. Conflicts aren’t always easy to deal with! You don’t have control on how your two friends feel for each other. But you can choose how you want to react and how to take care of your feelings. Have you talked calmly to your friend about how you feel right now? Do you think it would make you feel better? Do you have suggestions about how you both could make your friendship work? When a situation doesn’t change, we can make a decision. Are you willing to accept that, in the present moment, your friend spends more time with her boyfriend than with you? We can also decide to take some time off. Would you like to spend time with other friends or to do other activities? How could you take care of yourself? You can also find more information in the FRIENDS section. Ok? I’ll let you think about it all. We’re available for you if you have further questions! Tel-jeunes

hi,well i have a BF and we had sex,and it was my first time,but the thing that was weird is that my vagina smell bad and now im very un confertable having sex because of that,so my question is if its normal that my vagina smells like that???

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hi Cutiiee! There are so many things to know about sexuality. I understand that you want to have more information about what you experienced. First of all, you must know that the genitals have their own smell that can be different from one person to another. During sexual arousal, the vaginal lubrication will also have a smell. Those odours are natural, unless they are very strong and very unpleasant; this could be an infection symptom. If you’re worried about that, don’t hesitate to tell your doctor. Bye Cutiiee! Tel-jeunes

ok...this is weird for me...i'm unfortunatly gay...please dont judge me for that....its allready hard to live with. like an idiot i went in a chat room....i met this 18 year-old guy online and i physically met him earlier today...to have sex...we did oral and kissed...until he told me im not his type...what happened here?? is because im ugly or something? i honestly can say that i am not ugly...and a lot of people tell me im cute...so wut the hell is up with that?! but whatever...im not ever sure that i was ready anyway cuz it was very alkward...but i have a question....doing the things i did...am i still a virgin because i didnt penetrate or get penetrated....(?) or am i not a virgin anymore(those 10 minutes were bad by the way)???? i don'T even know...pleasde tell me...cause i think its important for me to know...and also...what does virgin ACTUALLY mean...what ACTION makes you not a virgin anymore...thanks -jay-

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hellojay11493! I think you’re asking a great question! What exactly defines virginity? In fact, it’s a personal concept. For some people, we lose it during the first sexual experience (penetration). For others, it’s the first intimate contacts. What’s virginity for you? Why is it important to you to define it? Remember that the most important thing is that you feel good with your actions and decisions. It’s true that our first experiences don’t always occur the way we hoped. But the main goal is to learn from it. What have you learned about yourself? Did it teach you something about your personal rhythm or your limits? I’ll let you think about it! We’re always available for your questions! Tel-jeunes

hi, my friend told me a bit about subconcious suicide and i would like to know what it is exactly. i don't want her to die and i would like to know what she is talking about. thanks.

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello rabbit! I wish I could understand what your friend told you, but I really don’t know. The best thing would be to ask your friend to clarify her thought. Do you agree with me? What did she meant? What’s “subconscious suicide” for her? There’s nothing wrong about “not knowing” what the other person is talking about. You can also let her know that you are worried. There’s help for a person that’s going through a hard time: a parent, a teacher, the school counsellor, etc. Ok? You can also reach us by phone 24/7. I’ll let you think about it! Don’t forget we’re here for you, Tel-jeunes

Last night i woke up at 3am and heard my dad in the bathroom. i wuz sleepin in the couch so i got up and decided to go to my room. on my way i noticed my dad get out and walk to my computer. when i passed the computer i saw him looking at a porn video. should i tell my moma? If i should i dont want to because my moma might get mad and divorce my dad... any sugestions? Thanx.

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello jayjay5! I understand this is a difficult situation for you. You saw your dad looking at pornography and you’re wondering if you should tell your mom. Tell me jayjay5, what do you want to do? In your message, you write “if I should, I don’t want to because my mom might get mad and divorce my dad”. Keep in mind you don’t have to tell your mom if you don’t want to. You need to feel comfortable with your actions. If you tell your mom, will that make you feel better? If you tell her, do you think you might experience more positives or negatives consequences? In this kind of situation, you could also decide to talk about it directly with your dad. Do you wish to tell him how you feel about this situation? Would that help you deal with this situation? I’ll let you think about it. Don’t hesitate to call us if you need to talk to a counsellor. Take care jayajy5! Tel-jeunes

my penis is extremely inferier to all the kids in my school, although my school is from kindergarden to 8th grade. so you can amagine how small it is. please help, im jo

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello jo! During puberty, the penis appearance change. It’s not something that will occur in 1 day, the changes will appear over the years. Do you understand what I mean? Everybody goes through puberty at a personal rhythm and it becomes impossible to compare ourselves with our friends. Moreover, there is no “normal” length for a penis because every boy is different. A “normal” penis can be short of long, thin or thick, etc. If you are worried about the subject, you could ask your doctor about it. What do you think? Have a good day! Tel-jeunes

well, my penis is very small... and i cant get over it. it is only 1 inch and it hasnt grown since 2nd grade. my girlfriend is very ashamed and unsatifide help.

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello boomboom, Guys are often worried about the size of their penis. You know, there’s no normal “length” for a penis. It’s a body part, just like the other ones. It’s like a nose or an arm. Some are long, short, thin, etc… Do you understand what I mean? Every boy has a different body. And every part of it is normal. We can’t change our body, but we can learn to accept it just as it is. One of the penis’s functions is to feel sexual pleasure. And pleasure doesn’t rely on size. Ok? I let you think about it! Take care! Tel-jeunes

hello, i have a best friend.. and we are like sisters..but lately shes changed she hasnt been treating me the same way.. shes always mad when i talk to her i think its because of her huge brake up with the guy of her dreams but theres no reason she needs to always get mad at me and everything because of that.. i dont know what to do.. im tired of her getting mad and when i talk to her i have to like call her 3 times so she can answer me.. please help

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello gummy! Conflicts are possible, even with our best friend! There are periods where we don’t get along the same way. Do you agree with me? We don’t have control on our friend’s feelings. If your best friend is going through a hard time in her life, it is possible that is has a repercussion on her behaviour towards people in her life. Do you understand what I mean? You can’t control the way that she talks to you. But, you can choose to let her know how you feel. Would it be a good idea? To have a conversation, we can choose a moment where the people involved are calmed and have time to talk. Do you know the best moment to talk to her? Moreover, it’s important to start our sentences with “I”. The “you” sounds more like an accusation. What would you want to tell her? How are you feeling? What’s bothering you right now? Would you be ready to listen to her point of view? Of course, it’s possible that your friend doesn’t change. If so, what would you choose to do? Would you take some distance and spend some time with other friends? Or would you be ready to accept your friend the way she is? I let you think about it! We are always available for you if you need more help! Take care, Tel-jeunes

Hey,I have a friend..and he told me that theres a guy that blackmails him to go out with girls or else he will beat him up..and now the guy is making him smock and hes doing it.. but this guy is always a joke maker and someone that does pranks but im scared hes not lying..wut if he is smocking? its a really big thing he told me. and its hard keeping it in im really scarred..

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello Kiki! I understand this is a difficult situation for you. Your friend told you someone blackmails him. You’re not sure if it’s true or not, but you’re worried. Tell me Kiki, what do you want to do about this situation? What do you think you can do? When we’re scared, we can think about ways to feel reassured. For example, you could decide to talk to your friend about your worries. You could tell him how difficult this situation is for you, making it even more important for you to know the truth. Is there anything else you would like to tell him? Tell me, is your friend ready to do something to make this situation stops? You know Kiki, no one has the right to force your friend to do things he doesn’t want to do. Is he ready to talk about what he’s going through with an adult that could protect him? You could maybe go with him, if you want. What do you think? And yourself, do you feel the need to talk about this situation with an adult you trust? You don’t have to stay alone with this situation. Is there a friend or an adult you could talk to? At the same time, it’s important to do things that make you feel better when you think about your friend’s situation. If you don’t, you may feel overwhelmed about it, don’t you think? Remember you can call us at any time if you need to speak with a counsellor. You can also give your friend our phone number. Take care! Tel-jeunes

Ok, well my bestfriend just got another bestfriend. At first, we all hung out togheter all us three. But right now she almost never talks to me, her locker is the locker right next to me and she never says "hi". Its been a month or so. When we do projects at school, she never wants to go with me and in class, she never wants to sit next to me. Once, I asked her if she was still my friend, and she anwsered "yea..." then didnt say anything else. I FEEL VERYY SAD HELP PLEASE

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hello lovahgal! I understand this is a difficult situation for you. You feel like one of your friends is leaving you behind. Friendships can sometimes change and take a direction we don’t necessarily like. Tell me, what do you wish to do about this situation? You know, when we are experiencing difficulties in any kind of relationship, it is important to talk about it. After all, communication is an important tool in conflict resolution. Does your friend know how you feel? Would you like to tell her how difficult this situation is for you? Do you think you could find solutions together? To help you, I invite you to have a look at our website. In the FRIENDS section, you’ll find information under the “You can learn how to resolve conflicts between friends” section. Even so, remember that you cannot force your friend to resolve this conflict…Tell me, do you have other friends at school? Would you like to put your energy on meeting new people? Do you think other friends would like to do team projects with you? If you want to find out, you may need to ask. What do you think? I’ll let you think about it. If you feel the need to talk to a counsellor, don’t hesitate to call us. We’re there for you 24/7 at 1 800 263-2266. Good luck lovahgal! Tel-jeunes

i have a girlfriend. she told her best friend she was going out with me... now everyone hates her.. and she gets pushed around at school she gets bullied. i'm soo scared. cause i had a friend who had the same problems.. and she got stabbed!... can you help me please? i want to know how i could help her without dumping her. she's the greatest thing that ever happened to me... please help me!!!

Tel-jeunes’ answer:
Hi Pretty.Princess! I understand that this situation is scary for you. You would like to help your girlfriend when she gets bullied. Very often, people who get bullied need to talk about what they are going through. Do you think it would help her to talk? What else do you think she needs? As her girlfriend, you can offer support, encouragements, help to find a solution with her, you can help her talk to the school counsellor, etc. If you witness the bullying, you can choose to show your support to your girlfriend. What could you say or do in those situations? Are there other people who could stand by your side when your girlfriend is being bullied? If you want more information about bullying, visit our VIOLENCE section. We also suggest ways to react when you’re being bullied. Maybe your girlfriend would want to read that. If you wish, you can both call us so we help you find solutions. Bye Pretty.Princess! Tel-jeunes