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[ My friend wont stop lying .. ]

cowgirl - girl - 14 ans (26 November 2009)

I know one of my friends Internet password .. and I know this is wrong, but i went to go look at her emails. I knew she did drugs, but I thought she did it about once a week.. and was being careful with it. Turns out shes not only taking weed, but pills too. She takes it about 4 times a week. I tried talking to her about it, but she keeps saying she hasnt done anything in 2-3 months. Which I know she is lying. She said I knew nothing about her, so I calmed down, and asked her to tell me about herself then. She has been ignoring me ever since. What do I do? I dont want her getting hurt but she wont listen to me..

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hello cowgirl,

I understand that you are worried for your friend and that you wish all the best for her.

From what I understand, you tried a lot of things with your friend but she doesn't want to talk about her drugs consumption. Do I understand correctly? How do you feel about her taking drugs?

You know cowgirl, we don't have any power over somebody else's choices. We can't control what they choose to do or not do. It is possible that your friend doesn't want to talk about it; that choice belongs to her. Do you understand what I mean by that?

Also you mention that you took a look into her Internet file. I think this is not a question of being a good or a bad idea; sometimes we do feel tempted to do so. When we read personal messages that belongs to someone else, we are "stuck" with the informations we found and with how we feel. What do you think about it?

Tell me, knowing that you don't have the power to persuade her to talk, what do you want to do? What kind of relationship do you want to share with her?

If you want to talk about it you are welcome to call us. It will be a pleasure for us to take a deeper look at this situation with you. Ok?

Take care,


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