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cookies - girl - 13 ans (22 October 2011)

Hi, I am 13 years old and I cant not stop lying to my mother and she dosent trust me anymore,wath sould I do for her to trsut me again?

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hi cookies,

Relationships with our parents can be hard at times.

When we lie, it is often to avoid a situation we don't want to be in. Sometimes, it was to avoid punishment, disappointing our parents, hurting the other people’s feelings, etc. What are your reasons for lying cookies? Have you ever explained to your mother what motivated you to lie? What are the reasons why you are doing it now? Would you be willing to start telling the truth?

Trust is something we earn over the years and we can lose it in a blink of an eye sometimes for something we did. It can take time before it comes back, if we can demonstrate to the other person that we are worthy of trust. What ways do you think you could show her that cookies? If you ever lost trust in someone, what would they need to do to gain it back? It's also possible to ask the person what we could do to gain their trust back. Would you be willing to do that? Time is also an issue when it comes to trust. It won't come back in a day and we need to be patient. Are you ready to wait so that time heals the relationship between you and your mother?

This experience might be hard to go through, but it's a good life lesson to make us realize how precious trust is between people. I'll let you reflect on all this and I encourage you to contact us if you ever need more help.


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