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Ace* - girl - 14 ans (3 July 2008)

I just got out of a very long relationship with the first person I've ever 'fell for'. He was a real jerk towards the end and he just used me. About a week after I finally finished with that jerk, one of my best friends that I kind of liked asked me out. I said yeah, and whatever but I had to break up with him cause I wasn't fully devoted. Two weeks have gone by and now my bestfriend/boyfriend hardly talks to me and I know he still cares, how do I get him to talk to me again?

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hello Ace*! First of all, let me tell you that we are sorry you received the wrong answer to your question. This is the right answer you should have received:

I understand you want your friend to talk to you again. You know Ace*, unfortunately, we don’t have that kind of control over another person. We can not force someone to talk to us if that person doesn’t want to. You know, if that guy had feelings for you, he might be going through a tough time since you broke up with him. What do you think?

So tell me, what can you do about this situation? For example, you could decide to tell him that you’re sorry things didn’t work out between you two and that you found important to be honest with him. You could also tell him that you respect his need to have some time and that you hope he will want to be your friend again after. In your message, you ask “how do I get him to talk to me again”? Tell me, do you talk to him? Sometimes, we need to make the first steps. What do you think? Do you have other ideas? Would you feel more comfortable telling him how you feel and how you wish things will be in a letter or an e-mail?

I’ll let you think about it. Don’t hesitate to call us if you need to. Take care Ace*!


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