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[ My girlfriends parents ]

rock4life - boy - 14 ans (7 May 2009)

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months (on and off).We totally have confidence in each other and we can really tell each other everything.Although not prfect,I think we have a pretty healthy realtionship.Her parents used to really like me up untill a couple weeks ago. There was an incident at our school where we (my girlfriend and i) were just at the wrong place at the wrong time. Since the person who commited the offence didnt fess up, we were both punchished equally. After that, well i recieved a call from her dad that i shouldnt talk to her anymore. Well things easily got resolved and i am now allowedd to talk to her again. But the problem is, her parents are starting to think that im becoming a destraction academicially. And the problem with her parents is that she (from what she tells me) never feels 'good enough' for them. They are always expecting better from her but she is a straight A student just like me. SO i would understand if her grades were dropping but they are staying the same so i really dont think im a destraction. She can just never please them. The real problem is that her parents are frocing her to go to a different school than me. I just dont know what happened.I dont treat her bad, i help her when she needs help,we have never had sex when we have had so many oppurtunites to.Im a good guy.If there is anything at all, what can i do? How can i get her parents to understand that im not a bad guy who their daughter shouldnt be exposed to?

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hello rock4life! I understand this is a difficult situation for you.

You're wondering what you can do about it. I understand that knowing her parents think you're a distraction can be frustrating for you. It's normal that you wish to find a way to make things better. Tell me, what have you tried? What do you think you can do? Unfortunately, we cannot force someone to change her or his mind. But the good news is that we can still act in order to feel like we did something. Tell me, would you like to talk to her parents? Communication is important in that kind of situation. How come they feel you're a distraction? What could you do so they don't see you like a distraction anymore? What do they need to be reassured on? Would you like to talk to them alone or with your girlfriend?

To help you, I invite you to have a look at the FAMILY section where you'll find informations under the "Conflits and communicaiton" rubric. If you would like for a counsellor to look at the situaiton a little bit more with you, I suggest that you call us directly. We're available 24/7.

Good luck!


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