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[ my best friend and my crush ]

diana - girl - 15 ans (21 July 2013)

hello , im having love problems , so i love this guy and its been over a year and i tryed evrything to mack it visable to him but i just realised that he loves my best friend. i dont find it normal to be jelous of my bestfriend but who can arguew im overweight and i see nothing good inmyself when i compar to her . im a mess and i dont know wath to do im alwayes sad and cant see the brite side of things ... i just want to stop having fellings i dont want to fell anything i hate being sad i dont know wath to do its realy complicated pliss help !! :(

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Hi there!

Thank you for trusting us :)

It is very painful to love someone who does not love you back and unfortunately, there is no magic button in our hearts to turn love off whenever we decide to. However, living all the emotions of the grieving process helps to get better and eventually feel hopeful and opened to new opportunities. There is no need for a person to die to got through grief, you can also grieve a dream, an idea, something that made you feel good... Grieving means to cry when necessary, to feel sad, angry and lost. It is okay. It can be like this for days, weeks or months, but I can assure you that it does get better and you might even feel stronger afterwards. The less you fight these emotions, the faster it goes. This does not mean that you have to stop living your life or have fun. You can slowly forget about your crush by doing things that you enjoy, for some it's watching a movie, others like to go out for a walk, others like to play on the computer. What could you do that you enjoy?

Some people in your situation choose to protect themselves by spending less time with their crush, or best friend, or both together. Others will focus on other friends to hang out with. Others will practice a sport or an art to express themselves in a creative way. Is there anything in those actions that you would like to try?

Please feel free to call us anytime if you need to discuss this further at 1-800-263-2266. Do not hesitate, we are available 24/7 :)

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