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my boyfriend gets upset very easily..recently he called me and the phone was breaking up so i couldn`t hear him properly..then when i finally heard him and tried to explain that it wasn`t my fault i didn`t hear what he had said..he didn`t even let me explain he hang up on me...i`m really hurt by this..he was being very dissrespectful to me..it is not the first time he hangs up on me...he did it before and i want him to stop doing that because it makes me feel worthless and it hurts my feelings really bad...how can i get him to stop??...please help!!
Hello sassygirl777,
I can understand it hurts your feelings.
We all have different ways to react to anger. Sometimes it’s acceptable for us, sometime it’s not. Some people yell at each other, other talk. Is it possible that when your boyfriend gets frustrated, it his way to express it?
We don’t have the power to change someone else. But we can choose our own reaction. When he hangs up on you, what could you choose to do? Do you prefer to wait until he calls back to apologize? Could you talk to other friends or change your mind?
Also we can ask ourselves if our own reaction can have an influence on the behaviour. For example, if every time a person hangs up, the other calls back: is it possible that the other will continue doing it?
Have you told him how you feel? For example, when you’re both calm and ready for a conversation? It’s important to let the other know how it makes us feel. Do you agree with me?
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