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Loveher77 - girl - 15 ans (26 November 2014)

Hey, So I am a 15 year old girl and I'm lesbian. In august I fell in love with a girl who was heartbroken by her ex girlfriend. I still have deep feelings for this girl. I don't know if what I am feeling is normal. She says she loves me and says cute things but I can't help but think she's just joking. She says she means what she says to me but on her ask.fm when people ask her if she misses me she just says "what? I told to her" I don't know what to do. I'm currently in a relationship with a girl in Maine. We have so many things in common and she gives me feelings I haven't gotten in a really long while. I can't help but think I'm going insane and I don't know what to think, say, nor do. Please help me

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hi there!

Thank you for trusting us with your worries!

It seems like wanting to fall in love and being in a relationship is important to you at this moment in your life. At the same time, it raises a lot of questions, right? When we feel ready for a relationship, we soon learn that we cannot control other people's choices, behavior, thoughts or feelings. The only person we can control is ourself. To cross the bridge between two persons, there is a wonderful tool : communication! We cannot know what people think or feel unless we ask. In your situation, some people choose to confront their friend to get a clear answer. Others choose to let it go. Others will realize their need for love and try to fulfill it the best they can. For example, if we feel like being in a relationship, we can start "getting real" about it and take risks! What would make you feel good and what are you willing to do?

A long distance relationship that takes place on the web can be full or suprises, that can be either good and/or bad. See, in front of a computer, we can be whoever we want to be. This means that we can be truthful, but we can also lie and create a character that doesn't show our true self. A screen doesn't give access to the tone of voice, the facial expressions, true intimacy... What is your plan with this situation? Do you have a clear idea of where you are heading?

I will let you think about all that. Do not hesitate to contact us again if you have other questions or call 24/7 at 1-800-263-2266!

Take care,

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