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heartbroken? - boy - 17 ans (23 July 2013)

hey there i hope someone can help me so it started back severals months ago when i met a girl at my school.This day i wanted to ask her to be my prom date but i had not feelings at her.i had a sudden mood swing that ruined everything.i stopped talking to her and later i felt pity and i i dont know of i had feelings or i was attracted to her.later on i felt like expressing my feelings during my grad trip but i wasn't ready.the days passed by,i felt more i dont know and i never expressed my feelings.sad thing is that i dont know her birthday,her past and stuff like that cause i was i a new school and stupid ego didnt let me know more about her what can i do?

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Hey there!

Having feelings for someone can lead us to all kind of emotions.

You know, it's not easy for anyone to tell someone we love that we want to be more than his friend. However, before telling the other that we want to be in a relationship with him or her, other options can allow us to take the time to verify how we feel and what we want to live with that person. As an example, some persons will just say "I'd like to know you better" and ask the girl they like if she would like to do something on the week-end, or invite her to hang out with their friends. Concerning an invitation to prom, it's also always possible to say "I'd really like to spend that evening with you si that we can become closest friends". What do yopu think? Would you have been more comfortable with these options?

You don't precise if you are still able to join that girl during the summer. If you are, would you like to explain her that you tought about inviting her to prom, and regret to not have done it? Would you like to tell her that you would like to spend some time with her since you can't see each other at school anymore? In that kind of situation, it's important to choose what we are more comfortable with. As an example, some guys will choose to call the other person whereas other will prefer texting her, emailing her, or talking to her on the internet. What about you? What do you prefer? You know, it's often by spending time and sharing activities with the other person that we can see if we are attracted or in love with her. Relationships can start with a single attraction, and then evolve into love. Had you ever think about that? Are you willing to verify what a relationship with that girl could lead you to?

If you have no way to join that girl, or decide that you want to try to forget her, you have to know that it is often time that help going through heartbreaks. However, we can help that time by doing activities that we like and make us feel better. Some persons will play sports, other will write, listen to music or manage to see their friends more often. What about you? What can help you feel better when you are down?

I hope I answered your question, and don't hesitate to contact us again anytime. Our line is open 24/7: 1 800 263-2266. We'll be glad to talk to you if you have any problem.

Good luck and take care!


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