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[ Fear of girls ]

Jeffrey - boy - 17 ans (5 February 2009)

Hello! I'm a boy and i'm gay i've known that i'm gay since i was 13years old,the only problem is girls i have tons of friends that are girls but when they start talking about they're breast or they're err...vagina i get sick...like really i have to go to the bathroom they asked me once what was wrong and i told them and they stopped talking about things like that in front of me...but my question is just why am i scared of breast and vagina's i mean i know what they are and everything but eachtime the school nurse came at the class to talk about things like that with the male parts i was okay but with the female parts i was and still are becoming green...i mean,i've known girls all my life i got sisters my mum and friends but im scared of those things and i just want to know why?

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hello Jeffrey,


I read your message with great attention.

Since we all are different we also have different reactions to events or situations. Our mental, physical and emotional perception of a situation is by multiple factors; thoughts, events that occurred in the past, fears, our interpretation of things we don’t know, etc. It’s an ensemble of factors that creates our personal experience. Do you understand what I mean?

In your message you describe your reaction to girl’s anatomy. I wouldn’t be able to know why it makes you feel sick through an email. It’s too short; it lacks of details. If it worries you or if you just want to understand your reaction better I invite you to talk with the school counsellor. This person could take the time to listen to you and help you understand this reaction better. Ok?

If you have further questions please don’t hesitate to write us back. Ok?
I wish you a great day!

Tel-jeunes


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