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Lolababy14 - girl - 14 ans (5 January 2014)

Hi, i wanted to ask if having sex with boys(i mean my boyfriend) will im 14 its bad? I enjoy sex and stuff and its normal for me! But i know adults have different view about that... I think there is nothing wrong with it, so, its bad?

Tel-jeunes’ answer

Hi there!

Thank you for trusting us :)

It is very normal for a person your age to feel strong sexual desire. The hormonal changes can provoque that. Feeling the desire and actually being ready to live a fully engaged and adult sexuality are two different things. Adults might have different view about this because teenagers can act on an impulse and forget about contraception or sexually transmitted diseases. Therefore, it is important to meet the school nurse or a nurse at your local CLSC to talk about contraception and STD and decide with your partner what birth control method you both choose. Know that the condom has the double advantage of protecting you against pregnancy and STDs.

Also, even if we feel physically ready, we might not be ready psychologically. It is important to ask yourself if you are ready to live with the consequences of having sex. For example, if your parents do not agree, are you willing to live with the consequences of them being disappointed and/or worried? It is your body, it is your decision to make. I will let you think about it.

Do not hesitate to call us if you want to discuss this further, we are available 24/7 at 1-800-263-2266.

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